Manfred Lemke

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The Relationship Between Loving and Missing

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Last Saturday our dog Nils showed strange symptoms. I noticed that he didn't celebrate food time with his normal enthusiasm. A little later I petted him on the stomach, he had this manner to turn on his back asking for a nice stomach rub. On that day, he seemed to enjoy my "treatment" as normal, but afterwards he remained strangely still on his back, which he had never done before. Later we discovered that he had quite violent cramps and he tried to vomit, but there was nothing to throw up.

I then decided to take him to the veterinary hospital as an emergency.

The vet thorougly examined Nils, with X-Ray and Ultrasound and the result was devastating. He had an extremely enlarged heart and a huge amount of liquid in his chest and the pericardium. This condition is very severe and there is no remedy. 

We were given the opportunity to gather at the hospital and to say goodbye to our dear friend and then it was time to release him from his pain.

Our pain, however, was just beginning. None of us had expected this to happen that day, of course, and none of us expected the pain of grief to be so great. As I have said so many times since, life is not for wimps.

The thing is this. The amount of sorrow and missing we feel is an indicator of our love. Because we love someone, we miss them when they are gone. So - there are two options. Either not to love in order to prevent the pangs of grief, or to love and to make ourselves vulnerable. A life with love, however, brings so much joy. Yes, there might be a moment of loss and missing, but it will never overshadow all the good times, the joy, laughters, the sharing you had during a lifetime.

We were not created for sorrow and death, but for joy and life. That's why we feel so utterly displaced and miserable in our berievement. The convulsions of sorrow are the reaction of life to death. Every single cell in our body rejects it because it is so alien to our true purpose.

I am glad that death will perish for good some day.

Sleep well our dear friend.



A journey back in time

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Have you ever dreamt of time-travelling? I most certainly have. I still remember how fascinated I was when I saw the film Back to the Future. Of course it was nonsense, but the mere thought of being able to visit another time period did fascinate me - and still does.

Well, this past week I had the opportunity to get as close as possible to time-travelling. I was able to follow Joe Malmede back to 1945. 

Joe was then here in Iceland as a young soldier for some seven months. Last week he came back, 72 years later, to show his wife Marie and two of his daughters and their husbands where some key events took place in his life. It was my privilege and pleasure to be their assistant and guide. Amongst the things we did is to visit the very site where his camp and his barrack was. We might have stood precisely on the foundation of that hut. At least, we found the water tower he drew so nicely detailed in this drawing.


It was amazing to see how Joe's memories came back after more than 70 years. Even though his body strength was not the same as it was all those years ago, his eyes were just the same as we could see in the photos from back then, as well as his humour. 

Another remarkable moment was when we visited the War and Peace Museum where we were given a special tour by Gaui, the owner of the collection.

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Gaui is here admiring the drawings and photos Joe had brought with him. Joe´s story and copies of the pictures will now be conserved in the museum for all future.

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The military aspect was interesting, but even more remarkable was his visit in this church.

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It was here, in 1945 that Joe attended for the first time a service in a Seventh-day Adventist Church. On his way to deployment in Iceland he had learned about the Church and when he arrived he decided to become an Adventist. It was only later that he got to know that he could even find fellow believers here in Iceland and so it was he came to this church. He has very fond memories from that time and he mentions particularly the warmth and hospitality of his Icelandic fellow believers. 


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Joe sharing his memories from 1945 in Reykjavik Adventist church with his daughter Jeanie and son in-law Kris.

I thank the Malmedes for allowing me to be part of this remarkable endeavour.






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Since my childhood I have been collecting mushrooms. I remember going with my dad out in the forests in Switzerland and collecting them. I learned to take care to know them before I picked them. I remember the moment I first saw the most poisonous mushroom that grows in central Europe, the appropriately named Death Cap. There it was, even if you picked it, put it in your basked and discarded it afterwards, the mere contact with other mushrooms could threaten your life! Amazing.

Here in Iceland there are no life-threatening mushrooms. Some make you sick, admitted, but they are at least not lethal. 

DSC 0006 3One of the mushrooms I avoided until last week is the Coprinus comatus, English names include shaggy ink cap, lawyer's wig, or shaggy mane. I didn't pick them mostly because my dad had once an allergic reaction to them. He cooked them separately and became somewhat ill. 

We have a patch close to our house where they grow very vigorously and I just coudn't resist reading about them and pick a few and try them out. The verdict is simple. These mushrooms are delicious!!! You need to pick them when they are still closed. As soon as they open they disintegrate quite quickly into an unsightly black mess. So, if you take up a mushroom and it is all white, you hold an exellent piece of fresh food in your hand. Just clean them slightly and then you can fry them in a pan with some butter. As condiment you can add some vegetable (or other) stock cube, perhaps a little pepper and a dash of thyme. This would make a stew. You can also use them to make a mushroom soup.

There are a few things to beware. It is important to prepare the mushrooms as quickly as possible after picking them. After about four hours they will start to deteriorate. Once you have cooked them you are fine to freeze them. Apparently it is also possible to dry them, I have yet to try that out. 

Until now I managed only to freeze one batch, the rest I ate immediately.

Just one final word of advice, take care where you pick the mushrooms. They grow sometimes in quite unhealthy environments, eg. close to roads. Don't take those because they may have absorbed unhealthy substances from their environment. And just one more word of advice. It seems that some people cannot drink alcohol when consuming this mushroom.


La Taupinière

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Last night we arrived in Moléson, in the heart of Gruyère country in Switzerland. We are here in our first airbnb experience in an absolutely marvellous chalet. The silence in the night was almost deafening... In the morning we heard the bells and moos of cows nearby. Just lovely. 

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La Taupiniere bathed in the late-summer sun.

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Can you see the top station on Mt Moléson? There is a nice more than 3 km ski slope from there. Looking forward to trying it out.


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If you like cheese you ought to want to know more about it. On Moléson there is a traditional mountain cheese hut, where you can take a peek. The cheese maker is very friendly and explains what he is doing, in French, so you can improve your listening skills as well ;-)
But they do provide booklets with information in English and German for those who prefer. By the way, the cottage cheese we were given to taste was amazingly different from the stuff you would get in shops! 

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